Hooking up with guys online

No I'm not talking about cybersex. I met up with another guy via an online method. I'd met up with someone from facebook and we know how that turned out. This time I was trying gaydar. Found a guy, we'd swapped pics, chatted quit a bit over a few days. So we decide to meet. I went to his place of course. And had some fun, i don't really need to go into specifics.


The problems began when he says to me he doesn't want it to be just about sex. Uh oh. They always do this. I was pretty clear what I wanted wasn't I?
"I want you to stay the night."
"I don't think I can."
"But I want you to."
"I can't."

Soon it was "how about tomorrow night?"
"I can't then either."
"I want you to stay the night, and I want to cook you breakfast in the morning".
"It's not gonna happen"

I left but then I started receiving texts from him. I told him straight out, i'd be in touch when I wanted to see him again. I really am a nice guy and find it hard to be a bitch to people. But he just didn't get it.
"Did I do something wrong?"
"No, i just need to work some things out. When i'm ready you'll hear from me"
"Well i'll leave the ball in your court"

I thought that might be the end of it. How wrong I was. Texts, phone calls, voicemails. He wanted to see me again. Did he not get it?!
"I want to see you again"
"Sorry, but no"

I stopped replying to them because it was getting annoying.

But eventually i'd had enough. And that what I told him. Enough already, please delete my number from your phone and don't contact me again.
His reply? I'd delete your number and won't contact you again.
My reply? Thank you.

Of course the next morning my phone vibrated. Yep it was another text from him.
"It doesn't have to end this way. I want to see you again"
I didn't respond. He called and not only did I not answer, but I rejected the call so he'd realise. But he left me another voicemail.

What is it that you don't get? I'm not interested. But even when I tell you i'm not interested you think you can save it or something. Nothing to be worried about, i'm 100% fine. Just not fucking interested!

Hooking up is fun, but this is not the way it's supposed to end up. I think I just may give up on the online thing. I never did it before, and I prefer sizing them up in person first. A bar, a club, something, anything.

jay