Monday, February 2, 2009

Jay is a little freaked out right now...

So last week that is what my status said. I was a little freaked out. So here is what the story is about.

There’s this guy. He’s been reading my blog and we’ve had minimal contact. Anyway, I got a message from him on facebook. He informed me that he was coming to NYC on his way somewhere and would be spending the night in a fancy hotel (I’m not going to say which one or where he’s from because that isn’t important). He wanted to have dinner with me at the hotel, hang out with me at the hotel bar, and spend the night with me. He proceeds to tell me he’d add my name to his hotel reservation and forward it to me, which he did. Now I’m sort of thinking WTF is going on?! I don’t know who this guy is, he has no real pics up and his fb name isn’t his real name, so it’s a fake profile like mine. He doesn’t know who I am either.

Maybe it’s just me, or maybe it’s the gay world we live in. Do guys hook up with random people just because they have some money to splash around? At least on craigslist or manhunt you might have an idea of who the guy is. Stats, a pic, something. Here I had a first name and that was it. In addition, he invited a blogger friend of mine to dinner too. I have no idea why, and I asked him why he invited the other guy in the first place? Was it so I’d feel more comfortable? His response was something like ‘thanks for the suggestion – I hadn’t thought of inviting him up to our suite, but if you want to….’

This was just getting worse and worse. I didn’t think I wanted to meet him at all now, it was all too creepy. Whatever happened to I’d like to get to know you? Whatever happened to I’d like to meet you someday? Is it a given that since I’m gay I will sleep with anyone and everyone who offers it to me on a silver platter?

Yes I hooked up with a guy I met on facebook, and I blogged about it, but I’m not that easy! We both knew who the other guy was and we’d been chatting a lot for a good few months before we got the idea to meet up. This guy I had no clues about. Other than he had decided he wanted to wine me, dine me and sleep with me. What the fuck is wrong with this world?!

BTW, he did send me pics eventually, but it was too little, too late. I found the whole thing creepy and don’t plan on meeting up with him for anything.

6 comments:

Yaakov said...

good job ending things with that guy. i mean, he seemed nice, there was no reason to think he had any bad intentions, he was offering u fun things. but it's not cool to come on too strong or too quick. i don't know that much about the gay world, so maybe what he did is normal for some people. but as far as i am concerned, u don't invite someone to sleep with u in ur hotel room before u even meet them and without even having chatted much at all. again, he's probably not a bad guy, but im glad that it freaked u out and that u backed away - it means that ur a smart guy who knows what hes doing. :)

DM said...

I think it's cute that you were freaked out. But I agree with Yaakov, he wasn't really suggesting anything that crazy. And I mean he at least did want to meet you before for dinner, he could have just invited you back to his hotel room. Way back when I probably would have been freaked out as well, although if he sent me pics and he turned out to be hot then I might meet up with him anyway. Hehe. It's not like you'd have to go back to his hotel room just cause you met him for dinner. :)

Bobby said...

Thanks for sharing. I'd be freaked out too. I think he liked the whole innocent idea. I have to admit I liked that about you. :) You're a very nice and funny guy too. Maybe it was that too!
You know how to handle yourself handsome and that's great. I'm here to answer and questions you have about our wonderful crazy gay world! :)

Jay said...

Yeah i don't think he had any bad intentions. Just too full on for me. It wasn't so much that I was invited, more that it was assumed that i would... whateva. It's in the past now. Maybe i'm too innocent? I should find someone to corrupt me, lol.

Bobby said...

I would have thought you were already corrupted babe?? haha I'm not a very good corruptor! lol

jay said...

I find it weird that he added you to the reservation. It's not like he even needed to do that if he wanted you to come back to his room with him.

Sounds fishy so I think you did the right thing.