Hello stranger, goodbye friend

I did something last week that I don't normally do, and the way I did it was in a way I never do. I met up with one of my facebook friends. Now that's not such a crazy thing, except for the fact that most of my facebook 'friends' don't know my real identity. Until now the way these things happen is usually i'll tell them my story, then show them my real profile, and then maybe meet. Yeah I know, very convoluted. This was more of a spur of the moment meeting. I had posted on my status that I was heading to Brooklyn, and one of my 'friends' was a southern boy on a roadtrip with a friend and was going to be in Brooklyn too. I was going to be back late, and he said he'd be out for an hour so who knew if we'd actually connect. I made it back to my apartment, and drove to Carrol Gardens to a bar he was heading to with his friend.

While he'd read some of my blog, he didn't know the full story, didn't know what I looked like, he didn't even know my real name. This was going to be interesting. It actually turned out to be a real fun night. 1 drink became 2 which became 3 which became 3 and a half. 1 hour turned into a good few. He was funny and sweet and just an all-round nice guy. I was having a great time with him. It started with something small, a hand brushing my knee, a touch here and a smile there, eventually we got to hands being held. He seemed really interested.

Eventually he went to use the restroom and I decided to follow him. I went in to an open one and left the door unlocked and he followed me inside. What followed was a hot, passionate make out session that we both wished could've gone on forever. It's not something I do often, and not something i'd ever done in a straight bar. There's no doubt about it, the guy is really into me, which is where my problem lies. Not that I'm not into him, but it's just that my life is complicated right now. Yes I'd love to be dating someone right now. But he lives down south, and I live in New York, and i'll be heading back home in less than two months. Not being out is definitely an issue too. If he lived in New York, then maybe it wouldn't be such an issue, if might a short term thing, or a bit of a fling. But as it is now, i feel guilty about letting him think it might actually turn into something serious. I know, I know, he's an adult and can take care of himself.

But really, how many times does someone tell me i'm husband material? Beautiful? Amazing? Sexy? Well too often when it comes to me ;) But the compliments just kept on coming. Over the next 24 hours we exchanged i'd say 150-200 texts. Yeah, insane. So there's my dilemma. If i'd gotten lucky that night it would've been amazing and if the opportunity arose again to be with him i'd say hell yeah, but i do feel bad in that I don't think it can go anywhere. And for one of us to fly across the country to see the other person while it would be nice, it sort of feels a bit like leading him on. He comes back to NYC for a couple days but i'll be overseas, so who knows what lies in store in the future.

I am definitely going to have a lot to think about on this upcoming trip, which by the way is to Buenos Aires. I made contact with one of my jewish gay fb friends from New York who is living there now so it looks like it is gonna be a great trip :)

Just a couple more things before I go. I hung out with a couple of friends over the weekend. Friday night I met up with a friend and we went for a walk abit, and talked alot, and smoked up a bit, lol. It's funny the people you meet at 2am on a friday night. I also found out about another guy I know of that is gay. They're all coming out of the woodwork it seems. Last night when I was supposed to be packing another friend got back to NYC from a weekend away. Since I'd been away for a good few weeks it felt like I hadn't seen him in so long, so we went out to get some food, and then went for a long walk around Brooklyn which was really nice. The clock is ticking down to my impending departure back home, and while I've gotten used to the fact that I am actually going, I don't think it has hit me yet about how much I'm going to miss all these new friends. We may have had contact before my trip here, maybe online chat or email. But nothing compares to actually hanging out with them.

And lastly today I wanted to meet up with another friend who was visiting. He'd been here a couple of months and he was heading to Argentina himself. He lands in Buenos Aires half an hour before I depart. FML. I should've gone to see him yesterday but that didn't work out, so I decided to drive in to the city this morning. Big mistake. I underestimated how long it would take me to get there, i didn't count of being stuck in traffic, not did I think about having nowhere to park due to alternate side parking. I thought mayeb we'd hang for a bit, go get coffee or something and then i'd leave. By the time I got there he was busy making lunch, and I was stressing out. I'd just arrived and had actually planned on leaving around that time. It was a disaster of enormous proportions. At least I got to see him, and since I had a car I gave him a ride with all his luggage to midtown where he was crashing till next week before he leaves on his big trip. Well at least I got to see him, and I made it where I was going eventually and I think i'm going to make my flight, lol.

Ok time to get out of here, no time to even proofread this post.
adios amigos
J

Last JQY meeting, and then some

Last week there was a JQY meeting on in Manhattan. Since these are only monthly, I wanted to drive in for it. While i do enjoy the meetings, i think it's often that i enjoy the social aspect than the actual discussion themselves. This month the topic was gays in the media, and it often went onto various tangents such as sex and Jonah (Jews Offering New Alternatives to Homosexuality an organization which i'm not going to discuss right now). I think I enjoyed the times we went off topic than the actual topic itself. Nevertheless, 10:30 came around all too quickly but instead of heading off to a bar or club as we usually do, this time around everyone decided to head home. For me that meant a drive back to Long Island, which was actually a bit of a bummer. I think i spent more time travelling than actually being at the meeting. Oh well there's always next month.

Another thing that happened to me that week which was a bit weird. I had to pick something up from someone's house and the husband answered the door. And he says to me "Don't take this the wrong way but you're a really good looking guy". It's always fun to get compliments, but i'm not quite sure how i'd take something like that the wrong way. And funnily enough it was his wife who had told me a couple months back a similar thing, and if she wasn't married, she'd want to date me, lmao. I gotta admit he is quite good looking himself :)

I'm going overseas next week for a week, to 'renew' my tourist visa. South America is my destination. I've never been there, and I don't speak any spanish so it should be fun! I'm not sure if i'll blog before I leave but if I get a chance, I'll write more on what these people are on about with my 'new' look.

ciao
J

You can only go where they want you...

I've been out of the 5 boros for a good few weeks, yet occasionally i've popped back to the place oft referred to as the city where they grow freakishly large malus domestica. Twice for dates and of course you know how they went. The stupid thing is that the actual date isn't often the worst thing about it. It's the discussion afterwards when i'm trying to end it all and the powers that be seem to think they know better. But the funniest line i've ever heard is "you can only go where they want you". What the fuck is that supposed to mean? If she wants a second date then I have to give it another chance even if it's not going to go anywhere? That's the lamest reason i've heard for going on a date with a person. I think it's time I gave up on all this.

But onto better things :) I also came into the city for a 'weekend away'. I was invited out for friday night dinner at a friends and i was able to stay over at his place for the weekend. I first popped home to pack and then off I went. The worst thing about NY in the summer isn't being outside when it's extremely humid. Being on a subway platform is ten times worse! And if you arrive on the platform as the train is pulling out, then you've just achieved maximum sweltering time in the hellhole commonly known as the 'subway platform in the hot and humid summer'.

Anyway the story does get better, i promise! I made it to R's place and we headed to CBST, aka the gay shul. It was only my second time there, and the crowd was much smaller than usual. I realized that my first visit there was pride weekend, so no wonder. For the second time in my life someone I knew walked in to a place where there was something gay going on. At first i thought oh my god! Did he see me?! Is he gay? What's he doing here?! I texted a friend, who told me his facebook status was 'going to the lesbian shule (synagogue)' so i discounted the idea that he may be gay and just hoped I wasn't spotted. He left early and that was that. (I did chat to him online to see how the experience was. I wasn't spotted and no he's not gay.) At the services there was a baby naming and Mr Splash was there too. I spotted a couple people who were facebook friends of mine but i didn't go over and introduce myself. I think that'd just be too weird.

After the services we all went back to R's place to eat. It was mainly the same people who were there last time we had a friday night dinner there with 1 extra guy. It was a very nice meal, delicious food and lots of fun. I was going to go out with one of the guys to the EV but we sat there for a while chatting with a bottle of wine and I just got so tired I decided to take a raincheck.

My host was going away early the following morning so I had to decide what to do. I made the most of it, got up earlyish and went out. Chelsea, Soho, it was a beautiful day out, and just walking all over the place was alot of fun. I did some shopping, I had some lunch, it was a really nice Saturday morning and afternoon. I bought a new pair of sunglasses which I don't like anymore so I need to return them. I got a text from O to meet in Central Park later that afternoon. Chilling in Central Park is always alot of fun, the company is great, the weather is usually great, the 'scenery' is always amazing lol. S and J came too and we spent a good few hours there.

As the weather cooled down, J and S were planning on heading to a party in Brooklyn so O and I decided to join them, first stopping off at S's place. After hanging around there for a while we decided to head out to eat first. We were going kosher tonight, so we needed to wait till the sabbath was over. First choice was J2 for pizza but it seems they don't open on Saturday nights in the summer. We headed there anyway hoping something else would materialize other than Kosher Delight. Kosher - i'm sure it is. But a delight? Certainly not!

While waiting inside for the 4th member of our party to join us, something ran through the place. I thought it was a rat. But that was no ordinary New York subway rat. It was like double the length at least. Maybe it wasn't even a rat, i don't want to know. All I can say is that it did wonders for my appetite. After the meal was over I wasn't feeling so well, and even though plans had changed from the party in brooklyn to therapy, i decided to call it quits and head home.

I have one last comment to make, I use google maps alot. If i plan to be somewhere by a specific time or to leave at a certain time it's great for subway travel. Trains run on time whenever it says they will. All that is except for Essex St/Delancey St on the Lower East side. No matter which train it tells me to take, the J, M or Z, it's never there when it says it will be there and i end up waiting half an hour for it, and i miss my connecting train and it just adds a huge amount of time to my travel. I hate that stop!

Time to bring this post to a close, already have stuff to work on another one. And i'm going overseas next week but more on that in my next post.
Jay

Another one

I'll see how i feel about this template over the next few days. If not, i'll move back to square one until I come up with another one.

j

Another one

Here's another color scheme. Again I don't think its that great, but i need something new and for now this could be it.

What do you think?
j

New color scheme

So what do you think of the new colour scheme? Comment away

The thing I hate the most about blogging...

I wanted to dedicate this post to those murdered and wounded at the shooting in a GLBT community center in Tel Aviv last night.

The thing I hate the most about blogging is having things in mind that I want to write about, but not actually writing about them. I have a few things in mind that I wanted to write about, some recent, and some not so recent, I don't know why it takes me so long to get it down. So now i'm hoping to catch up on all that.

For starters I should let you all know that my blog has a facebook page and you can become a fan! The link to my page is here, and while you're at it you'll find me here.

Ok now onto other stuff. Well I finally have a conclusion with 'Mr yeah we kissed at the club and I asked for your number and I texted you and then totally ignored you'. It was around 10 days since I last heard from him, and i sent him one last text. Just because I needed to get it off my chest. His response was classic. "Um who are you". I sent him one last reply and he figured out who I was, but I didn't care any more. I got what I'd wanted, an ending. Based on the info he gave me I found him on facebook. My reaction... what was I thinking?!

Ok onto my next topic. I got a text from a friend a couple weeks ago, it said "just hooked up with a straight friend, lol". I wondered, do I really want to know every time a friend hooks up? I mean it's not like we're the Sex and the City girls! In the famous words of Bruno "Oh that's such a Samantha thing to say" lol. But i understand totally. Here I am telling the world about the people I hook up with, sharing way too much information. He wants to tell someone, so why not me?

Lastly my weekend was a bit of a bummer. Well not that it was bad, but I had planned on going away for the weekend maybe somewhere by the Jersey Shore, and up until Friday afternoon I thought I'd make it. And then my hopes were dashed with one phonecall and I ended up staying in Brooklyn. It went from bad to worse when I went to Boro Park to get some food. I got back to the car a few minutes after the meter expired and already had a ticket on my windshield. FML! The weekend itself wasn't bad, I had a couple nice meals, met up with a few friends on Friday night for a birthday party and had some gay friends there too, and went to the park on Saturday afternoon for some suntanning. Central Park definitely has more eyecandy but I wasn't complaining, the sun was out and that was all that mattered :) . Right now it's raining and cloudy outside. Not fun at all.

Ok i'm outta here. Have a great week, and until next time, peace.
j