Saturday, July 5, 2008

Im yirtzah hashem badir

Im yirtzah hashem badir. It's a yiddish expression which basically translates to 'god willing by you'. It is a wish often said to single people, especially when someone gets engaged or married, and also couples without kids, especially when someone else has a child. Of course everyone means well, but i've had enough of it.

A sibling of mine got engaged recently, which is great news! But every person who wishes me mazel tov, says im yirtzah hashem badir, and i mean EVERY person. Friends, relatives, grandparents, everyone. when you get it 10, 15, 20 times a day, you don't want to hear about it any more. The worst is when i'm speaking with one of my grandparents who is losing their memory. In one conversation i'm probably told it or something similar 3 or 4 times.

Something tells me they're not referring to a male partner ;)

j

7 comments:

Anonymous said...

I'm sure they mean well.. also, you may be surprised at how many of those people would support you when push comes to shove.

Jay said...

Hey anonymous,

I have no doubt they mean well. But it's still something i hate hearing again and again and again. And it will only become more often the older i get. As for supposrting me when push comes to shove, only time will tell.

I'm curious if you're the same anonymous that used to post here or someone else :)

j

Audrey B said...

Dear Jay.
It sounds like things aren't going well. I hope you don't hurt yourself. Love,
Audrey B

Anonymous said...

was my first time posting. I know what you're going through, I'm in a very similar situation. Stay strong, you're not alone, and there are people who support you and accept you for who you are. good luck! "If you're going through hell, keep going" - Churchill

Jay said...

Audrey you make me laugh! I'm not going to hurt myself.

Thanks anonymous. A very similar situation? Wanna talk about it privately? email me :)

jay

Anonymous said...

add me on AIM, shadowkid666666 I am usually on nights after 8 or 9

Jay said...

done :)