tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7149406204479542170.post9102590142356596469..comments2023-07-01T10:01:54.212-04:00Comments on Living thru hell, one day at a time: Hi. My name is Jay. And I'm a gay porn distributorJayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00542320138312107780noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7149406204479542170.post-19584688520676050722009-11-26T18:04:30.735-05:002009-11-26T18:04:30.735-05:00Jay!
It is your life and you can do whatever you ...Jay!<br /><br />It is your life and you can do whatever you wan to with it.<br />Of course you will make so many mistakes. That is part of the process. No need to be sorry or feel guilty.<br />Be proud! That's what I did.<br />If I was able to move on, I would move on easily<br /><br />Kiss Kiss cutie :)Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01025767157342590672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7149406204479542170.post-69021631401685366142009-11-26T01:54:27.891-05:002009-11-26T01:54:27.891-05:00Okay, it was bound to happen but I do agree to som...Okay, it was bound to happen but I do agree to some extent with the first anonymous poster and also David re. reparative therapy, though it does sound as if they realize that it is not the thing to do. <br />The second thing you can do is offer them objective information for parents of frum gays and Jewish gays.<br />There is a lot of information out there now specifically for parents. <br />Please try the Jewish Mosaic website. It's a fantastic resource.<br />If you would like a slew of very helpful links, please email me.<br />I'm probably around your parents' age so perhaps I can understand their *panic* and I'd be more than happy to suggest some links for you to use as you see fit.<br />Your parents are probably more bewildered than anything right now. People can do stupid things when they are thrust into a situation that they never expected.<br />It would be a shame if you were to lose the people who love you.<br />I wish you all the best and hope that things work out.Jeannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12430195762629030092noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7149406204479542170.post-20580660552592367472009-11-25T21:09:09.586-05:002009-11-25T21:09:09.586-05:00Thanks all for your comments. It's been a bit ...Thanks all for your comments. It's been a bit of an emotional rollercoaster ride, but i'm ok now. I won't be pushed into anything I don't want and thats that :)Jayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00542320138312107780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7149406204479542170.post-75693754118074354752009-11-25T18:53:41.694-05:002009-11-25T18:53:41.694-05:00I'm being 100% serious here. If any of your fa...I'm being 100% serious here. If any of your family aggressively suggests or even hints at forcing you into reparative therapy, leave the house (I mean pack a bag and go) telling them you will not speak to them again until they promise to never bring up the subject again.<br /><br />Find friends you can stay with. See if "our mutual friend" will put you up until you can find a place of your own. You need to get out of there. They need to work through this without the potential opportunity of trying to brainwash you. Take care of yourself.<br /><br />I'm sorry this is happening. You will make it through. I promise. Call me if you need to talk.dpastehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10813652943621759603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7149406204479542170.post-20498307268700797292009-11-25T14:35:50.740-05:002009-11-25T14:35:50.740-05:00Hi ive recently come across your blog,an find it v...Hi ive recently come across your blog,an find it very interesting.I really feel for you,and how your family is treating you,right now when you need support the most,i private detective??!! thats crazy,but all i can say is stay strong,and hold on to your sanity!good luck.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7149406204479542170.post-28966204369051721482009-11-25T14:00:41.644-05:002009-11-25T14:00:41.644-05:00So sorry to read this. Your family has really cro...So sorry to read this. Your family has really crossed the line.WickedGayBlog.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09413531458772463528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7149406204479542170.post-1622175277901427152009-11-25T11:17:26.075-05:002009-11-25T11:17:26.075-05:00More important than being angry that your parents ...More important than being angry that your parents don't want to accept you as gay (it is counter to their religion and that has to be hard to take), you should be angry that they have zero respect for your privacy. Try not to create a big blowout though. But do tell them how much it hurts to have them all conspire against you. They're your family and you all love each other. No one in a family should behave that way. And don't let them push you into going to Jonah. Don't deny who you are. You can have a healthy, fulfilling Jewish life and be gay. Trust me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7149406204479542170.post-21887970799981646932009-11-25T10:45:03.360-05:002009-11-25T10:45:03.360-05:00Tragedy and Comedy are Greek inventions. Life is a...Tragedy and Comedy are Greek inventions. Life is a bit of both. <br /><br />Be true to yourself, repay kindness with kindness and you will find your way.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7149406204479542170.post-16066835423498966442009-11-25T10:42:54.913-05:002009-11-25T10:42:54.913-05:00Here's where things get interesting.Here's where things get interesting.The Blackout Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04730438347596775113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7149406204479542170.post-53805064344390369692009-11-25T10:30:30.792-05:002009-11-25T10:30:30.792-05:00Firstly I want to say being gay is fine and it'...Firstly I want to say being gay is fine and it's normal, it's not a disease and while people can change their origination over time, it can't be "cured". But you know all that by now.<br /><br />I came out when I was young and since then I've leant a lot about it. Your family will be trying to make sense of it with the limited tools (knowledge) they have, and based on what you've told me about your family they don't know much about being gay and Jewish. It's going to be hard for them and for you, maybe harder for them as they may not have ready access to neutral information like that do (plus you've already had time to come to terms with how you feel). <br /><br />They are going to blame everything they can and feel deeply guilty that they raised you wrong.<br /><br />But you need to talk to them, confront them and stop this snowball of mis-information. You need to guide them through this process and teach them.<br /><br />It's not going to be easy but in the long run you want them on your side. <br /><br />It took me years, I made loads of mistakes and even now my parents are still not completely comfortable with it. I lost years of having them in my life and those years are lost. But it is what it is, I just wished I knew what I do now back then.<br /><br />Talk to them Jay, don't check their email and don't accuse them of an invasion of your privacy when you are doing the same.<br /><br />If you opened up to them, perhaps they wouldn't need to sneak around and neither would you.<br /><br />Rough road ahead but it gets easier. Just like coming to terms with your own homosexuality. <br /><br />This time was always going to come, good luck with it and remember to be as rational as you can.<br /><br />My heart goes out to you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com